Do I need Godly friends? where do I find Godly friends? why do I need Christian friends? what value will they add to me? well, this article is aimed at helping you understand Godly relationships
A few weeks ago, I started to have this dissatisfaction in my spirit about my friends, purpose, and a few other things.
I began telling God that I needed friends that will stretch me out of my comfort zone. I just suddenly became tired of being the smartest amongst my group of friends, I wanted something more.
It’s not as though the couple of friends I have don’t spike up a thing or two about me, sadly, they live miles away from me.
We don’t get to see often, sometimes when I am in my down moment, I just don’t get to talk to them.
I chatted with a distant friend from my local assembly about the dissatisfaction I have been experiencing, he then asked if I had any friends, I simply said no.
Because in the actual sense, that’s the truth. They are far away from me, our conversation is seasonal.
He told me God will bring new people across my path, I was so happy to have that conversation
You might say ‘well, I am not the chatty type, how do I make friends? how do I know if someone should be my friend? we will be taking a dive in that direction now.
But before that, let’s define who a Godly friend is
Who is a Godly friend
A Godly friend is someone whose interest is to bring you closer to God. Their sole interest is for you to become all that God wants you to be.
They play major roles in your spiritual, career, and family life.
Why do I need to find a Godly friend?
There are several reasons why you need Godly friends and they include:
Humans don’t love the idea of accountability, but ironically, we need it for growth as Christians. Accountability covers all facets of our life, we should be accountable to someone for every aspect of our life.
Often, we do not see temptations coming, or even after we have fallen we still don’t realize it.
A Godly friend will correct you in love and make you see the reason why you should or shouldn’t make certain decisions. you really need to make Godly friends
Our dark moments
Some seasons will come in our life where we will need a shoulder to lean on, Godly friends are what we need in times like this
They bring the best out of us
Godly friends prioritize bringing the best out of us. in addition to this, they teach us how to be the best at what we do.
They focus on helping us maintain a balance in our spiritual, family, and career life, you need to find Godly friends
Help us remain focus
Fourthly, Godly friends ensure that we remain focused on our visions and goals.
They check up on us from time to time to be sure that we are sticking to our commitment to God, career, and family.
Draw us closer to God
Finally, making Godly friends keeps us closer to God. when a push is necessary, they give that to us, and if it is chastisement, they don’t relent.
You really need to find, keep, and make Godly friends. God wants you to make Godly friends.
how to choose Godly friends
In the process of finding Christian friends, there are certain factors you should put into consideration;
1. Your purpose
I am sure you have come across the scriptures in Ephesians 4;8 that says ‘when he ascended, he gave gifts unto men.
These gifts are men, if you read further you will understand this, Let’s take a look at verses 11 and 12
11 And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; 12. For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:(Ephesians 4:11,12)
Men need men to survive. Your friend plays a greater role in how far you will go in life.
If you have a mediocre as friend, it will be very hard for you to rise.
Meeting Christian friends that shares the same vision as yours is the best gift you can ever have.
You get to collaborate, analyze and define things together. “two are better than one
Christ was intentional about his choice of friends, you have to. His choice of friends had to do with his ordination and ministry.
Your ordination and purpose should be a factor that determines the kind of friend you keep most importantly.
2. Seasons of your life
As believers our lives evolve around times and seasons, God designed it that way.
It’s however important for us to know that some relationships revolve around specific times and seasons of our lives. God intentionally allocates someone to play a major role in your life during this season
It may be to usher you into something regarding your ordination or something else, they stand as help for you. and once that season has ended, everyone goes their separate ways.
However, some relationships are meant to last for decades, they stand the test of time. irrespective of how bad or cold you might be, these friends stick to you.
However, you must learn to discern the role of people in your life. Be intentional in your choice of friends.
This is kind of similar to the previous factor, the only difference is that you are the one helping this set of people.
You help them grow into the stature of Christ at a particular phase of their life, it might be for a year or two, or even decades, depending on how long their discipleship will last.
Your God’s given purpose evolves around people, so it’s certain God will send people across your way that you will be of great help to more than they would be to you.
Finally on criteria to look out for when you are looking for a Christian friend, your friend should be someone whose words is seasoned with salt and grace.
Their words should be filled with encouragement, and love and not the other way round.
Need more friends, I have provided you with tips on how to find Godly friends below
How to find Godly friends
To find Godly friends, simply;
1. Pray about them
Prayer is necessary when it comes to finding Godly friends. God is interested in your choice of friends as much as he is to you. this is because your choice of friends determines how far you will go in life.
some people were doing well until they met someone that changed the course of their life.
Pray and ask God to bring men across your path that will lift you and bring the best out of you.
Also, pray that God brings men whom you will be a source of blessing to.
It’s vice versa.
In finding Godly friends, prayer is the most important step to take.
2. Position yourself where they are
If you want to meet Godly friends, you have to move to where they are. Sometimes, we become attracted to people around where we are positioned which is why it is very important to be rightly positioned.
In the case of Abraham, God said to him in Genesis 12: 1
Now the LORD had said unto Abram, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto a land that I will shew thee:Genesis 12:1
This is because he was wrongly positioned and this positioning would prevent him from receiving the blessings, and fellowship God intended for him to have.
Some blessings won’t come to you until you change your positioning or location.
However, it’s important to note that positioning in the case of finding Godly friends can be Church, a bible study group, the gym, a music concert, a prayer event, and much more.
Go down the list and keep trying, not all will work, but one will.
3. Get involved
You have to be involved to be able to make friends, it’s not enough that you position yourself, you have to get involved.
What if Ruth didn’t participate in the harvest, Boaz would not have noticed her.
often, most churches ask for volunteers to fill in a specific post for a big program they want to hold.
You should volunteer to help in these offices. who knows, you might just find that Godly friend that will push you till you become like Christ
4. Join online christian communities
You might be wondering if an online community is the best place to make Godly friends, well I would say that it is not going to hurt if you try.
Balance is key, you don’t want to be in a one-sided relationship, make sure you find Godly friends in your online community that put a balance to all they do
Who knows, you might be lucky to find someone in your online community that stays in your area of residence
5. Join a bible study group
You can decide to join a bible study group of women or girls in your local assembly or in another church within your locality.
With this idea, you get to interact with women who have the same goal and mindset as yours.
You meet with women who are concerned about balancing spirituality with homemaking and career.
This is the kind of group I will love to join.
In the case where you cant find a bible study group to join, you can create one yourself, then invite people to join online and offline.
6. Check up on old friends
Checking up on old friends might just do the magic, sometimes the answer to your prayers might be in an old friend.
However, you should do this whichever way the Holy Spirit leads you.
Now, that you have got a couple of friends, how do you keep them?
Let’s check that out.
How do I keep Godly friends?
Now that your pursuit of finding a Godly friend has ended, it’s now time to look into measures to put in place to keep those friend
- Commitment: commitment is the bedrock of all human relationships.
it takes two to tangle, if you are not ready to commit, there is no point in looking for friends.
Create time, communicate frequently, and keep up with daily tasks and schedules.
- Prayers: A friendship/relationship that sticks together prays together, fix a time when you all will pray together, and see that you stick to it
- Give room for imperfection: We are all humans and we are bound to make mistakes, don’t expect your Godly friends to be perfect. they can make a couple of mistakes one time or the other, choose to let go and forgive.
Finally, I hope you learned how to find Godly friends? Remember that commitment is key.
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